I Am The Key To My Happiness

Above are seven words that have changed my life!  Isn’t it funny how we can hear something so much that we actually begin to discount it’s relevance.  Well, that’s exactly how simple those words were in my life.  I said them but I didn’t live them.

 “What do you mean by that Kinia?”  I’ll tell you. 

There was a time when I thought that my happiness was determined by what was going on around me, if nothing in my direct eye sight was happening then I would sit back and wish for something.  Mind you now, I never would have admitted that back then, but if you watched my actions even a blind man could see that I needed interaction. I spent the early years waiting for something to make me happy.  Sad but true! I lived a normal live, Husband and kids, even a dog.  I did everything to ensure their happiness.  When it came to my family I knew that happiness was the key to a productive life.  When it came to me, that was another story, I was always too busy to figure out what would make me happy. 

As life would have it, things happened and life changed. The kids grew up and the husband……well he had to go too! LOL 

All of these changes lead me to realize that life was moving on and if I wasn’t careful it would leave me standing on the side waving goodbye. Something had to change, I finally realized that nothing was wrong with the world.  But there was something wrong in how I perceived myself in the world.

 The change started within me,  I am now proud to announce that I have discovered the fountain of youth inside of myself, and these very words set me free:  “ I AM THE KEY TO MY HAPPINESS”.  This is not a question, it is a  statement of realization.  I know now that I am the key because only I can give permission to those around me to add to or take away from my happiness.  I am in control of me and when I’m not, it’s because I’ve given that power over to someone else.  What a wonderful feeling I have now knowing that I control my life, I am responsible for my happiness.

This statement has also allowed me to unlock the doors of personal fulfillment!  But before walking through those doors I needed a plan, I had to ask myself some very important questions. The first question being what is my idea of happiness? I believe that it must have taken me a hot minute to answer that question, happiness is being able to enjoy all of my life regardless of my present state.  Meaning that regardless of whatever is going on in my life at the time, I will always stay grounded enough to realize that trouble don’t last always.  Second question,   When am I most happy?  That one was easy, I love people.  So I know that any time I can be around others, happiness can’t be far away.  It doesn’t matter if I’m with family or friends, heck there have been times when I’ve had crazy fun with strangers and was as happy as a lark!  Friendship is the ultimate medicine, it cures the soul.  I’ve been blessed enough to have the best friends in my family, my sister, mother and daughter just to name a few.  I won’t even begin to mention the countless women that have been friends during the hard times and the good ones!  The women that have shared times that can’t be taken for granted.  Yes, I’ve found happiness from sharing memorable moments with the powerful women around me!

Last but not least, the ultimate question.  How do I ensure that this happiness is not short lived?  Create a circle of women who are also searching for a well balanced happy life!  Yes, I’m referring to you.  Don’t look around, I’m talking to you. The beautiful woman reading this.  How long have you thought to yourself that there has to be more to life than just going to work and coming home? Or repeating the same things day after day hoping that tomorrow will bring an opportunity to change the mundane?  Just because you’d like to enjoy your spare time a little more, does not mean that you’re not happy with your life. Not at all, it just means that you realize that life has much more to offer and you’re not doing all you can do to enjoy it!  Pinky Swear has vowed to take away the excuses that so many of us use:

1.                  I can never find anything too do in this city, even though it seems as though something is always going on.

2.                  I would love to get out sometimes but who would I go with?

3.                  Who has the time to search for activities anyway?

4.                  I’m too busy

5.                  I don’t have the money

Well ladies, I’m here to tell you that life is too short to just sit by and watch it pass by!

YOU REALLY ARE THE KEY TO YOUR HAPPINESS

Isn’t it time that you took that key and unlocked a life time of happiness through building lasting friendships, years of memories and fun events that sometimes will require a pinky swear promise between girl friends?

It’s definitely time for you to treat yourself to a little personal time with the girls

See you at the next event!

Kinia